It Was A Busy Day

It was a busy day, a busy week, a busy month, a busy life.  I can choose to be less harried, though that choice is often obscured by the tasks before me. I made a choice yesterday that I want to share and celebrate.  First, here’s a little more background to lead you to today’s short story.

The tasks for taking care of my two daughters (ages six and two), my husband, and our home are never-ending.   Ordinarily, I joyfully engage in what has to be done because my eyes are on the prize.  I adore my girls and husband, too!

However, as any mom knows, the duties of being a householder can be overwhelming.  As the saying goes (and I’ve amended it), all work and no play make mom a dull mom.   Yikes! I don’t want to be overwhelmed and dull!

So I found a beach, 20 minutes away, with not a soul around (not a “given” in southern California).  I let myself be free and joyful.  No one was watching so that made it easier.

I skipped.  I balanced on one leg. I twirled.  I did side bends. I walked down the beach doing lunges, adding a prayer-hands side twist, and stepping forward into a one-legged standing forward bend. I did Warrior 1 looking up at the sun with the ocean breeze cooling me down.  I did Sun Salutations adopted for the sand (i.e. no poses on the belly and no traction for Downward Dog).  I did cartwheels.  I did handstands dropping into backbends kicking into back walk-overs.

I made up poses that felt cool and fun and I moved in ways that made me feel joyful and alive.  Every movement I made released my mental constructs and unleashed more happiness.  The energy of the ocean infused me (as it always does) with remembrance of my aliveness, of that part of me that is the joyful, little girl.
beachphotoI sat and breathed it all in, thanking myself for making this choice.  This was significant — my soul told me.

I returned home bursting with joy from my secret experience.  To make time and to allow myself the liberty to be carefree— it was so easy to do. Yet I recall that it also seems like the hardest thing to do.  So I write this blog post to inspire others as well as myself.  May I remember how to do this again and again.  This is yoga.

Yoga for Birthday Parties? Not Just for Kids

This week, I had the honor of being a private yoga instructor for a birthday party.  Typically, I hear of yoga birthday parties being hosted for children.  What a wonderful thing, I often think, for children to come together with their friends to physically and imaginatively express themselves as an alternative birthday honor.

This party had a different target age, women in their sixth and seventh decade. This special group of 65-70 year old women gave me good reason to advocate the yoga birthday party theme for adults.  Carving out time for guests to enjoy this reflective and restorative practice can set the stage for a lovely interaction amongst friends.

Here’s an short interview with the 71-year-old birthday girl:

Why did you decide to have a yoga birthday party?

Because my friends and I are of an age where we really need yoga.  It’s always hard for us to work it into our schedules.  I thought it would be a good way to celebrate my birthday with my friends to do something that we like and need.

How did your birthday party with your friends turn out?

Hugely successful.  The teacher was great and much appreciated.  My friends loved the session.  Everyone was in a great mood.  We spent the rest of the evening enjoying dinner, wine and each other’s company.

Did all your friends participate?

No, two did not because of prior injuries.  They joined us for dinner.

Seems like you gave your friends the “present” of “presence”, yogically speaking. What did your friends bring you for a birthday present?

There’s an organization in town that supports underserved children to have a summer camp experience.  I asked my friends, in lieu of bringing me a gift, to please make a donation to the non-profit, ForKids.  They brought me checks and I couldn’t have been more pleased.

Would you consider incorporating yoga into another birthday celebration?

Definitely, because people enjoyed it so much.

Ten Things I Would Say to Teenagers About Yoga

I’m a believer in knowing the big picture.  If someone asks me to do something, I do a lot better when I understand WHY I am doing it.

When my daughter struggles with her homework, I explain that her frustration is a sign that she is building her brain “muscle” and strengthening her ability to learn. (For more, see Mindset by Carol Dwek.)  Because she understands the benefit of the struggle and how the process unfolds, she can continue her work without letting frustration get the best of her.

I think we are all like this, performing at a higher level when we have a certain education.

That is why I talk to teenagers all the time as I’m teaching.  Like my daughter and her homework challenges, yoga can seem strange and even difficult for the unfamiliar.   Why we do yoga, who does yoga, and the benefits of yoga are discussion topics that provide a chance, not only to educate teens, but also to encourage them to be open to the experience.

Here are some discussion topics that I regularly start with teens, whether they are already doing yoga with me or considering it.   Come to think of it, these are useful conversation topics for adults, too.

First, the short list:

  1. Yoga is relevant for everybody.
  2. Learn how to care for yourself.
  3. Yoga helps you recharge and become clear-minded.
  4. Yoga helps you cope.
  5. Yoga is a workout, too!
  6. You can get better at the poses.
  7. You’re so lucky to be doing yoga now.
  8. We’re so lucky to be doing yoga now.
  9. The point of yoga is to remain curious .
  10. Seek things to do that will empower you.

Now, the list with a little explanation:

  1. Yoga is relevant for everybody because every “body” has a body and every body can breathe.
  2. Yoga is a system of self-care.  It’s incredibly useful to learn how to care for yourself.  Yoga helps all the systems of your body function properly (circulatory, muscular skeletal, endocrine, digestive, nervous, reproductive.)
  3. I’ve asked a lot of teens how they feel after doing yoga and I overwhelmingly hear  “very calm”.  Yoga helps you recharge and become clear-minded.  The experience of relaxation that comes with a good physical yoga practice can be very profound.
  4. Yoga helps you cope with things like anxiety, depression, ADHD, anger, jealousy.  I always feel grateful after I practice yoga.
  5. Concerned about getting exercise and losing weight?  Yoga is a workout, too!  It really is.  It helps regulate metabolism and increase self-awareness so that you’re less likely to eat too much, and you’ll feel better about yourself, in general.
  6. Just like you can get better at a sport, you can get better at the poses.  As long as you are operating from a place of knowledge and respect for how your body works, expect improvement for yourself as you get stronger, your coordination improves, and your muscles lengthen.
  7. Your so lucky to be doing yoga now.  SOOO many people say to me that they wish they had known about yoga earlier in life.  And, if they had had yoga as a teenager, it would have changed their life for the better.  I’m one of those people.
  8. We are so lucky to be doing yoga now.  It’s really a gift to have the time and place to practice yoga.  It’s a sacred time to acknowledge the blessings of our life, including our body and breath.
  9. The point of yoga is to remain curious about what you can do.  If you ever feel bad about yourself in any kind of way while you are doing yoga, you are NOT doing yoga.  Yoga helps you improve your mental outlook so if you’re feeling jealous, self-defeated, or envious, yoga gives you the chance to forget those methods of thinking and instead to observe and engage in your own experience.
  10. Seek things to do that will empower your strength of mind, body and character like yoga and not things that will disempower you (like drugs, drinking, wrong relationships).

From the viewpoint of a teenager, what would you add to these discussion points?

This short clip shows a teen class taught by Christy where she incorporates some of these points.

The Instructor’s Guide for Teaching Yoga to Teenagers is also available for helping prepare you to teach teens.

 

What I Love About Small Classes

Part of being a yoga teacher, in my opinion, is caring about your students.  Yoga is such a helpful system for self-care  that we yoga teachers are chiefly motivated to share these wonderful benefits with others.  In my 16 years of teaching, my fondest memories are of the people that have been my students.

In big classes, I will  likely not remember names but in small classes my students become my friends.  I look forward to seeing them every week.  I have a little more time to hear about their life happenings and incidental injuries.  I am moved by their gains and care about their setbacks .   My home yoga studio is conducive to this sort of friendliness and it suits me well.

This all hit home even deeper for me this week.  In my beginner’s class for ladies, instead of beginning promptly with mindful study of our bodies in a seated position, we shared our stories; powerful stories of how we got where we are and whose husbands had passed away and when.   It left me with a a very sincere appreciation of who they are.  Likewise, I felt very supported by their questions and listening.

These heartfelt exchanges make the world go around.  It’s community and compassion that we all need and with which, we thrive.

Teach Every Teen About Food: How Yoga Teachers Can Help

I’m thinking it’s time to start bringing some nutrition education into the  teen yoga classroom.  The assumption that teens are being raised with  wholesome meals or getting a good nutrition education elsewhere is not a good assumption to make these days.

Because I know and understand the difference food can make in my life, I make a point to offer home-cooked, fresh, preferably organic, local foods for myself and my family.  If you care about yourself and the loved ones in your life, chances are you have made some changes, too.  Now, more than ever, this is a skill we should share with teenagers.

What prompted me to write this blog was the TED talk by Jamie Oliver included at the bottom of this post.  It is a compelling call to action.

Also, I have been asked by other yoga teachers whether it’s appropriate to include nutrition education in yoga class.  While I have always been supportive of the idea, the time is now to actually encourage it.

To read more on this topic, pick up a copy of Teaching Teens Yoga eBook, Vol. 3 [Read more...]